Grief is one of the most emotionally draining processes one can go through. Grief is what comes after loss. When you lose someone or something of significance to your life, it is natural that you will grieve for it. It is the healing that everyone hopes so, as to when that happens, no one can know. Here is a few tips I’d share on coping with loss and grief.
Loss is the process of losing someone or something. It could be the death of a loved one, loss of a job, loss of friendship and more. Loss can be hard to deal with, depending on the kind of person you are.
My first loss happened when I was just a year old. My dad left Malawi for USA in search for greener pastures. And although I have a great relationship with him now, it still hurts that I might never meet him in this life.
At the age of 10, I lost my adopted stepdad and by far, remains one of the greatest lost ever. Just this year, I lost a bestfriend, not to death gladly, just two adults with differences falling out.
Grief is a natural response to losing someone or something. How this process is done it entirely according to you and you alone. That is because it is very emotional. This is the mourning stage, where you mourn death, friendship, a job etc.
This is the time when you go through different emotions like anger, disbelief, shock, despair, sadness or guilt. These emotions become overwhelming, and sometime make people slip into depression.
You will cry and cry and it gets numb. But you have to try to work on your healing.
In order to start healing, you first need to acknowledge and accept your loss. That is the actual first step. Once you accept that, it becomes easier to cope with the loss and the grief you are going through.
You should also open yourself up for conversation about the loss. You can choose to meet with a professional (therapist etc) or even with friends and family. Make sure to talk with people who will understand exactly what you are going through.
Remember, healing is a process. Do not rush yourself to heal. Allow yourself to go through all the emotions that grief brings you. It will hurt, your heart will ache, but you will get better.
Not to be cliche, but time is the healer. It will get better soon.
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